I know you would have heard this multiple times by now, “expectation leads to disappointment“.
But can you really expect a person to not expect?
I got to writing this article today because, I felt that I expect so often and for such small things! You might laugh when I tell you what happened today.
I pinged one of my colleague at work (thanks to the technology, now, you can see if your message is read by the recipient or not) and I did not receive any reply even though my message was read! This Bothered Me!!!! I get so restless if the person on the other side sees my message and does not reply. It immediately pops tons of questions and emotions in my head!
Did I do something wrong? Is the person angry with me? Should I send another message to check? Should I delete my message? Is the person intentionally ignoring me? and the list goes on….
Today when I did this… I wondered.. how stupid am I? And why am I getting bothered by such a small thing… Why am I expecting someone to reply in the first place? it’s okay if the person is not replying. There could be so many reasons for that. Why am I getting bothered…. Does it really matter?
And there! I understood how inevitable this feeling of expectation could be for some of us!
Later I read this quote, which made so much sense to me:
Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don’t.– Steve Maraboli
Let’s break this down.
Why expecting something from someone is not recommended?
Because, when you expect something from someone, you put yourself in a vulnerable position. This position attaches your happiness and peace with the outcome of your expectation. And since you are not the one who controls the outcome, you just give your happiness and peace in someone else’s hand! As simple as that!
From today I will try my best to not expect anything from anyone, because I want to be the controller of my mood, my feelings.
What about you? Do you have expectations?