The Race Pattern

Have you ever noticed a pattern in your life? A pattern that your parents followed, then you and probably your kids would too?

When I look back, there is one pattern that’s very obvious. I call it “the race pattern” !

  • The race to come first in the class πŸ†
  • The race to join the best college πŸ™‹πŸ»β€β™€οΈ
  • The race to get the best job and salary πŸ’Ό
  • The race to get the best partner πŸ™ŽπŸ»β€β™‚οΈ
  • The race to have the best marriage πŸ‘°πŸ»
  • The race to get promoted πŸ’°
  • The race to get your child admitted to the best school πŸ§’πŸ»

And Repeat! β™Ύ

It’s a full circle! It’s a “Rat Race”!

This is something that never changes, no matter what age, what stage in your life. Everyone wants the best. Everyone is in the same race and wants to come first. And why not?

The point is, at what cost? What are you willing to pay for it?

The trouble with being in the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.

Lily Tomlin

At first this pattern may seem very obvious and something you wouldn’t consider as an issue. But, as you dig deeper, you will realize, you are missing out on the most precious gift given by god – “Life” !

Life is the cost that we are paying being in this race.

We somewhere forget to live, to be, to exist, to appreciate the mere fact that we are alive today and we could breathe!

I’m going to enjoy every second, and I’m going to know I’m enjoying it while I’m enjoying it. Most people don’t live; they just race. They are trying to reach some goal far away on the horizon, and in the heat of the going they get so breathless and panting that they lose sight of the beautiful, tranquil country they are passing through; and then the first thing they know, they are old and worn out, and it doesn’t make any difference whether they’ve reached the goal or not.

Jean Webster

Can we not just slow down for a bit? Can we not just be and let be? Can we not for once differ the pattern?

What if I don’t come first? what if I am not the best employee of the year? what if I failed in my relationship? Can I still Live?

Word of The Day Prompt: Precious

Discover Prompt: Slow


  1. potatosandwich

    The rat race, for some will never end. Some even enjoy the whole experience, good luck to them. If you’re from an Indian heritage (like myself) then this ‘blueprint’ of life is already mapped out. It’s a competition from the age of 14 onwards (much earlier now in this dawn of the generation). Have to be No.1. How about, ‘have to get up each morning and feel loved at what I do’. This experience we are all going through shows that no amount of money or power in the world can save you. And for those who replace family time with ‘making money and being productive time’ may hopefully realise what they have been missing. In the rat race is there is only one loser, (us) and one winner (life – chuckling at your state).

    Nice post.

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  2. Shiloh Carozza

    It is fascinating to me how the “race” mentality is more prominent in certain cultures– and how different cultures sometimes have different ideas of what it looks like to win the race. Beauty? Independence? Wealth? Freedom? Power? No matter which one though, you are right: we can never win by those standards. And in the meantime, we are missing out the gift God gave us– life itself!

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      1. mayetsworld

        I don’t know if you think this is off-topic but one thing that has always bothered me is how many women tend to put each other down, whilst trying to be the best. They would rather succeed alone than empower each other. I’m not generalizing though. There are certainly a lot of people that encourage others, run their own race & enjoy seeing others grow.


      2. A Curious Mind πŸ™‹πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

        Yeah a little off topic but I get your point.

        In my opinion, people in general try to put each other down a lot of times, it’s not only limited to one gender. There are all sorts of people in this world and we can never generalize it. It totally depends on what you got to see in your life.

        In my childhood, I read a poem, which taught me a great deal and it makes sense now.

        When a bird is inside the egg, it feels that this is the world and there is nothing else. When it comes out of the egg and lives in the nest, it feels this nest is the world and that’s it. But the day it learns to fly it realises that oh! It was wrong!! The world is huge, it’s big.

        So we make conclusions and form opinions on what we see and experience. Which is totally fine! But that does not mean “that is it! ” πŸ™‚

        Take care! Stay safe! πŸ™‚

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      3. mayetsworld

        Definitely agree. Our experiences shape our perceptions. One of the reasons I started writing on a platform like WordPress was to see things differently & consider views of various people. And don’t get me wrong, i didn’t generalize – I only explained from my experiences. I have dear friends, my mum, sister, wife & I only expressed my feelings as a result of what I experienced with them. They do a lot of great things & they would never be successful at the things they undertook if they indeed succumbed to the negativity spewed at them from other women. Genders aside, we should never make it a competition. We should always aspire to be a better version of ourselves. I also strongly believe that dimming another persons light doesn’t make yours shine any brighter. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, much appreciated

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